Unhappy Accepting Help?

Why if you were in a dire straight and someone was offering you help, without asking anything in return, would you turn it down?

First off, in my personal case...I don't ask anyone for help unless it is ABSOLUTELY necessary for me to do so. I have accepted help in the past, and done my damndest to take care of the person who helped me out, even if they didn't expect anything in return. I was taught that way. But for me, even in that situation, things would backfire. Not every time, but enough.

I can understand to a point being too proud to accept help. But being too proud to, sometimes makes people look like they really want to be in the situation they are in..if they aren't going to take help, then they need to do what they can to better it.

I can also see the flipside to that. Someone who will put themselves in that situation, just because they know that someone will be there to help them pick up the pieces, and still not do anything to better themselves. In essence becoming a "mooch", well that is the best word I can say without becoming vulgar. Living off of the generousity of anyone and everyone stupid enough to play into the scenario.

I wish life was more cut and dry in instances such as these. I hate being torn one way or another. A happy medium would be nice.

But life doesn't always go the way that we want it to, does it? All the aggrevation isn't worth what it does to you. I have to learn this myself. Knowing it and practicing it are 2 different things tho.

Spilt milk is nothing to cry over, neither is water under the bridge. Maybe someday soon, I can get to that point early on in a situation, and not dwell on things that nothing can be done about.